How I Found the One
Our Wedding - 2005
This is really a Friday Fun post, but it’s a day late 
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In my early adulthood I didn’t have a clue about men or love. I made a lot of bad decisions. And then, shortly after I turned 30 I began adding Tweaks or positive habits to my life. Gradually, I began to realize that I am a worthy, precious person and I slowly started to treat myself accordingly.
Magic started to happen. I got happier and it showed. Men started to notice me. It dawned on me in a blinding realization that fat does not mean unattractive. I was an attractive, vibrant woman even though I was still very heavy.
Once I realized that there were in fact PLENTY of men who found me attractive, a funny thing happened. I got picky about men. In fact, I got super picky. I stopped considering men I would have dated out of desperation before. I stopped considering men who seemed “okay.” I was holding out for just the right one and I knew I’d find him.
And now the truly magical part: I did. One day I got a response at an online personals site that got my attention right away. An attractive man with a sweet, sensitive face who spoke to me in a way that made me think that he really read my profile and got it. We talked, and we talked and we talked some more. The sense of “this man really understands how I think and what I value” was overwhelming. I still wasn’t sure because we hadn’t met, so I was holding my heart safe. But then we met and he was everything he seemed to be, and he smelled good too! (Never fall in love with a man you haven’t smelled yet LOL — chemistry is critical.)
This man is Martin, my husband, and we have been life partners for over six years. Every day I have to pinch myself because I cannot believe how fortunate I was to find such a tender, generous and passionate man. I know for certain that I found him because I waited until the right guy came along.
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WOW!…Reading your story gives me a new found hope as I embark on my own journey thank you for sharing it.
Jessica, thanks for your comment!
It’s amazing what can happen when you open your heart to it!
Yes it truely is amazing what happens when you open your heart to loving life. It just puts a whole new perspective on it.
Thank you for this post. When discussing my love life (or lack of one), people often ask me, “Are you being too picky?” No, I think not. Your post reminds me that I can be open to people and love while being aware of what I want and need. I don’t have to accept less. It’s possible to know the best when it comes along. Thanks for this reminder. And all happiness to you both…